Review of "I Have Your Number" by Debra Zachau

Score: 92/100 (9.2 out of 10)

Have you ever met someone and thought, “Why on earth are you like this?”
Have you ever wondered why the same type of person keeps breaking your heart, ghosting your texts, or driving you absolutely insane?

Well, Debra Zachau would likely tell you: Check their birthday!

Or, more accurately: do the soul math on their birthday and see what their Life Path number says.

According to Zachau, your date of birth is basically your soul’s job description. Add up the digits, reduce them to a Life Path number, and suddenly the control freak boss, the clingy ex, the flaky friend, and the too-nice doormat all start to make a strange kind of sense.

At its core, I Have Your Number is a playful, relationship focused numerology guide that keeps things very simple on purpose. Zachau does not bury you in charts, advanced calculations, or dense metaphysics. She gives you one main tool to work with, the Life Path number, then spends the rest of the book showing you how that one number can shape how a person loves, fights, flirts, ghosts, or commits.

The structure makes this incredibly easy to use. After a quick “how to” on calculating Life Paths, the book becomes a series of portraits. Each chapter covers one Life Path, 1 through 9 plus Master Numbers, and reads like a character breakdown for your favorite reality dating show.

Life Path 1 is the lone wolf, fiercely independent and secretly terrified of needing anyone.

Life Path 2 is the emotional sponge, hyper aware of every feeling in the room, terrified of conflict, and exhausted from saying yes all the time.

Life Path 3 is the storyteller and performer, charming, funny, and constantly wondering if anyone is taking them seriously.

Life Path 8 is the power player who treats life like a boardroom and occasionally forgets that their partner is not an employee.

Life Path 9 is the old soul who wants to rescue the world and sometimes forgets that they are part of it.

Like, we said before, this can be quite interesting. It can even be fun.
But we're gonna put our grounded/down-to-earth hats on and express our feelings that it does seem a little...out there. It's similar to astrology, gematria, Kabbalah, Chinese zodiac, and other such esoteric, mystical systems that seek to categorize people as one type or another.

It kinda reminds us of body-type and blood-type diets. It's interesting to read, but we're not sure how practical or accurate all of that is.

Maybe it helps people to make sense of other people and themselves?
That might be worth it.

Also, it's clear that this book is built with a lot of love, passion, and experience.

Debra Zachau has years of coaching experience and more than 11,000 client sessions, which makes her someone worth listening to and learning from.

Also, if you read the author's previous (fiction) book, When Life Knocks You Off Your Happy, you really get the sense that she's both an incredibly charismatic and entertaining person as well as someone who has a very deep understanding of people. All of the characters in that book were so well constructed. They were deep, relatable, and all taught an important lesson (sometimes more).

So, this book follows along in the same way being both entertaining and educational.

One thing you should definitely know is that this book seems to be aimed toward heterosexual women since all of the examples of compatible partners are male. In other words, if you're a straight dude, be prepared to sit through the narrator telling you about attractive traits of other dudes.

One of the ways that Zachau really livens up this book is with the use of similes, metaphors, and allegories like: numerology as “astrology's nerdy, math obsessed sibling who actually shows up on time,” your Life Path number as “your soul's job description” and even “the Terms & Conditions of your soul,” or the calculation process as “soul math” where “we're not baking a spiritual layer cake here; we're just adding numbers.”

The author is very eloquent and quirky.

Some of our favorite examples of this are:

"They will Houdini out of clinginess with astonishing speed"

"Dating a 6 is like stepping into a warm, cozy blanket fort"

"They don't lead with flash. They lead with function."

"...you can't build a world worth living in if you burn yourself out before you get there."

"33s are like dating a spiritual guide, a therapist, an artist, and a cruise director all wrapped into one soulful, big-hearted human.

We noticed there's a lot of hummingbird analogies in here. For example:

"Telling a 5 to 'just be patient' is like asking a hummingbird to nap."

Zachau is such a gifted writer!

Check it out on Amazon!